Everyone Deserves A Chance, Even Your Boss

Have you ever left a company, transferred, or just flat out quit a job because of a not-so-great relationship with your manager? Do you call your best friend, significant other, or anybody willing to listen to you vent about your boss day after day; the moment you get off of work?  Do you find yourself re-routing the walk to your desk the moment you spot your boss; hoping to miss out on an interaction with them?

It's been said that employees don't leave companies, they leave managers.  So...if any of my questions struck a chord or two, it's alright.  You're not alone.  But, I want to ask you just one more question.  

Have you ever had at least one honest conversation with your boss to discuss how you feel?  I realize it's a pretty radical idea, and such an action could have catastrophic results.  But, just stay with me for a few more paragraphs.

Everyone vents or complains to co-workers, family members, and friends about their bosses.   Nothing wrong with that.  Getting things off of your chest is always better than allowing them to sit and fester. Not to mention seeking feedback from a third-party; someone that can be provide objective input, is a great way to ensure that you’re evaluating the situation from all angles...not just your own.


Nevertheless, there’s one critical step that you shouldn’t neglect to do - talk with your manager.  At some point, you have to include them in the conflict/issues resolution process.  Believe it or not, they may not have any idea how their actions are coming across or being received.  As crazy as it is to imagine, it's very possible that your boss doesn't wake up every morning plotting your personal demise.


Unfortunately, many of us are on Indeed and CareerBuilder looking for another job before you know it; we’ve already made up our minds about our boss; we've judged them without sitting down and discussing our frustrations.
Whomever you vent to; no matter how insightful they might be, they’re not the person you need to talk to ultimately.  They’re not the person you’re frustrated with.  They’re not the person stressing you out, or the reason you're looking for another job.  

If you are having problems with your boss; if you have complaints or issues, take a chance on a direct conversation.  You at least owe it to yourself to let them know how their actions have impacted you.  And, you owe your boss the chance to make adjustments in an effort to improve the relationship.  After all - if the shoe were on the other foot, would you not want the same?